Let’s Talk About Those Elephants…

Articles about grief, neurodivergence, loss and the other awkward bits of being human. No psychobabble, no neat little answers, and no pretending difficult things are simpler than they are. Just thoughtful, honest writing about the things we often struggle to say out loud. Read whatever catches your eye….

• No, You’re Not Doing Grief Wrong
  So many people think they’re messing grief up. Maybe that’s you. Maybe you’re wondering why you’re still crying after so long. Or why you haven’t cried at all. Why one minute you’re… Read more: No, You’re Not Doing Grief Wrong
• Why “How Do You Feel?” Isn’t Always the Right Question
  Quick question: did your grief training teach you what to do when someone genuinely can’t identify what they’re feeling? Not “won’t.” Can’t. Most supporters are taught to sit patiently with… Read more: Why “How Do You Feel?” Isn’t Always the Right Question
• The Wrong Tool. The Wrong Conclusion.
  You know that feeling when even the easy stuff feels hard? You answer the emails, pay the bills, remember your sister’s birthday, and mostly manage to get a wash on… Read more: The Wrong Tool. The Wrong Conclusion.
• Stuck On Repeat?
  Believe it or not, you probably don’t need a total life overhaul. You just need to stop going round in the same loop, like a song that’s been on repeat… Read more: Stuck On Repeat?
• Are They Actually Mad With You, Or Is That Just Your Default Setting?
  You write a perfectly reasonable reply to someone’s post. You read it back. Seems fine. You read it again. Hmm. You delete a sentence, add a “haha” so you don’t… Read more: Are They Actually Mad With You, Or Is That Just Your Default Setting?
• You Don’t Need Therapy, Right? You’re Strong.
  Therapy’s for people who fall apart. Not you. You hold it together. Smile through it. Keep going. Besides, everyone says it: “You’re so strong. I don’t know how you do… Read more: You Don’t Need Therapy, Right? You’re Strong.
• Stuck Is A Feeling, Not A Life Sentence
  “It is what it is.” I often trotted out this line in my own therapy. With a wry shrug meant to say, “I’m a tough cookie, I’ll cope”, but that… Read more: Stuck Is A Feeling, Not A Life Sentence
• It’s Times Like These, Time and Time Again
  In 2024 I got my first tattoo during a huge turning point in my life. It’s the lyrics to Times Like These by Foo Fighters. I was just emerging from an oppressive… Read more: It’s Times Like These, Time and Time Again
• How Not to Build a Life
  I used to think I was just a bit rubbish at coping. Now I know I was never given much to work with. A lot of us don’t realise how… Read more: How Not to Build a Life