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Tag: Grief

  • No, You’re Not Doing Grief Wrong

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    Trudie Bamford
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    So many people think they’re messing grief up. Maybe that’s you. Maybe you’re wondering why you’re still crying after so long. Or why you haven’t cried at all. Why one minute you’re totally fine, and the next you’re sobbing in your car because you saw their favorite snack in the shop. Or maybe you’re trying to support…

  • Why “How Do You Feel?” Isn’t Always the Right Question

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    Trudie Bamford
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    Quick question: did your grief training teach you what to do when someone genuinely can’t identify what they’re feeling? Not “won’t.” Can’t. Most supporters are taught to sit patiently with silence, trusting the feelings will eventually become easier to describe. But for many autistic people, that approach doesn’t help. They’re not searching for words they’ll…